Suicide and language

We need to challenge stigma that surrounds suicide as it can sometimes be what stops people from feeling able to ask for help.

Changing how we talk about suicide can save lives.

Suicide is an emotive and complex subject. The use of appropriate, non-stigmatising and compassionate language can be important.

It can be a difficult subject to talk about but research shows that talking about suicide can help save lives.

The language we use matters because it conveys both hidden and explicit messages. We respond to words without even realising it and words can reinforce stigma. That stigma can stop someone from talking about how they’re feeling or asking for support.

Do say Don't say Why
‘Died by suicide’ or ‘took their own life’ ‘Committed suicide’ or ‘commit suicide’ To avoid the association between suicide and ‘crime’ or ‘sin’ that may alienate people.
‘Took their own life’, ‘died by suicide’ or ‘ended their own life’ ‘Successful suicide attempt’ Talking about suicide in terms of success is not helpful. If a person survives, this language reinforces the feeling of failure. If a person dies by suicide, it cannot ever be a success.
‘Attempted suicide’ or ‘non-fatal suicide attempt’ ‘Unsuccessful suicide attempt’ As above
‘Are you thinking about taking your own life?’ or ‘are you feeling suicidal?’ ‘You aren’t going to do something silly are you?’ There is still a taboo around talking about suicide which can make it even harder for people experiencing these feelings to open up and feel understood. Direct questions can help someone talk about how they are feeling.
‘Concerning rates of suicide’ ‘Suicide epidemic’ To avoid sensationalism and inaccuracy

We can’t always anticipate what language people will be most comfortable with, but we can ensure that our words are considered and sensitive. 

We can all challenge our understanding and use of language and be open to how language evolves.

We can all recognise the influence that language plays and pledge to use compassionate language.